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Posted on June 14, 2016 at 2:10 PM

Sad to see how many people abuse of the drama in Orlando to push their own agenda. While faking emotions, all they seem to have in mind is what else they can wring out of that situation. Shame on you and shame on those who buy that obvious agenda!

Don't Forsake Us!!

Posted on January 7, 2016 at 3:10 PM

DON'T FORSAKE HOMOSEXUALS WHO WANT HELP

 

Written By : Charles Socarides, Benjamin Kaufman, Joseph Nicolosi, Jeffrey Satinover, and Richard Fitzgibbons

 

Reprinted from Letters to the Editor, Wall Street Journal, January 9, 1997.

 

(Posted: October 2010)

 

© 1997 by the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH), founded in 1992, is composed of psychoanalysts, psychoanalytically-informed psychologists, certified social workers, and other behavioral scientists, as well as laymen in fields such as law, religion, and education.

 

Suppose that a young man, seeking help for a psychological condition that was associated with serious health risks and made him desperately unhappy were to be told by the professional he consulted that no treatment is available, that his condition is permanent and genetically based, and that he must learn to live with it. Perhaps this young man, unwilling to give up hope, sought out other specialists only to receive the same message: "Nothing can be done for you. Accept your condition."

 

How would this man and his family feel when they discovered years later that numerous therapeutic approaches have been available for his specific problem for more than 60 years? What would be his reaction when informed that, although none of these approaches guaranteed results and most required a long period of treatment, a patient who was willing to follow a proven treatment regime had a good chance of being free from the condition? How would this man feel if he discovered that the reason he was not informed that treatment for his condition was available was that certain groups were, for political reasons, pressuring professionals to deny that effective treatment existed?

 

Every day young men seek help because they are experiencing an unwanted sexual attraction to other men, and are told that their condition is untreatable. It is not surprising that many of these young men fall into depression or despair when they are informed that a normal life with a wife and children is never to be theirs.

 

This despair can lead to reckless and life-threatening actions. Many young men with homosexual inclinations, feeling their lives are of little value, are choosing to engage in unprotected sex with strangers. Epidemiologists are well aware that the number of new HIV infections among young men involved in homosexual activity is rising at an alarming rate; within this population, the "safer sex" message is falling on deaf ears. One recent study revealed that 38% of homosexual adolescents had engaged in unprotected sex in the previous six months.

 

Young men and the parents of at-risk males have a right to know that prevention and effective treatment are available. They have a right to expect that every professional they consult will inform them of all their therapeutic options and allow them to make their own choices based on the best clinical evidence. A variety of studies have shown that between 25% and 50% of those seeking treatment experienced significant improvement. If a therapist feels for whatever reason that he cannot treat someone of this condition, he has an obligation to refer the patient to someone who will.

 

Also, these young men and their parents have the right to know that, contrary to media propaganda, there is no proven biological basis for homosexuality. A November 1995 article in Scientific American pointed out that the much-publicized brain research by Simon Le Vay has never been replicated and that Dean Hamer's gene study has been contradicted by another study.

 

The truth is that the clinical experience of many therapists who work with men struggling with same-sex attractions and behaviors indicates that there are many causes and various manifestations of homosexuality. No single category describes them all, but the disorder is characterized by a constellation of symptoms, including excessive clinging to the mother during early childhood, a sense that one's masculinity is defective, and powerful feelings of guilt, shame and inferiority beginning in adolescence.

 

If the emotional desire for another man is primarily a symptom of the failure to develop a strong masculine identity, then a man's unconscious desire to assume the manhood of another male may be more important than the sexual act. The goal of therapy in such cases is to help the clients understand the various causes of his feelings and to strengthen his masculine identify. It has been our clinical experience that as these men become more comfortable and confident with their manhood, same-sex attractions decrease significantly. Eventually many find the freedom they are seeking and are able to have normal relationships with women.

 

Help is available for men struggling with unwanted homosexual desires. The National Association for Research and Treatment of Homosexuality offers information for those interested in understanding the various therapeutic approaches to treatment. In addition, a number of self-help groups have sprung up to offer support to those who suffer from this problem.

 

As we grieve for all those lives so abruptly ended by AIDS, we would do well to reflect that many of the young men who have died of AIDS have sought treatment for their homosexuality and were denied knowledge and hope. Many of them would be alive today if they had only been told where to find the help they sought.

 

Dr. Socarides is a clinical professor of psychiatry at Albert Einstein College of Medicine. Dr. Kaufman is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California, Davis. Dr. Nicolosi is director of a clinic in Encino, Calif. Dr. Satinover is a Westport, Conn., psychiatrist. Dr. Fitzgibbons is director of a clinic in West Conshohocken, PA.

Strategy for Christian Ex-Gay Ministries

Posted on July 29, 2014 at 11:15 AM

I can already see the frowns. “Strategy”? What for? Well, do you think the gays got to the point where they are now without any strategy? So here some points to ponder:

 

1) Don’t just copy what worked for gay activists. The end does not justify the means. Quite on the contrary: the means should always point to the end.

2) Stop being nice. This is over. “Tolerance” does not mean you cannot criticize somebody else’s opinion. We are followers of Jesus, so let’s take Him as a role model. He was far away from being nice when it came to exposing evil.

3) Stop preaching to the choir. I am sick and tired of those “ex-gay trains” where usually pretty much the same speakers address an audience that already knows and shares their views. If you want money for your ministry, say so. Nothing wrong with that. But stop wasting our time and energy. Instead:

4) Fulfill the Great Commandment! Go out and make disciples! Shout our message from the roofs! Expose false teachers wherever you meet them! Don’t be afraid of losing everything – look forward to what you might be gaining!

5) Structures, rules, guidelines and programs of an ex-gay ministry are means to an end – they are NOT the end itself! Our goal is neither fulfilling organizational standards nor “turning gays to straights” – our goal is holiness!

6) Unite! If we are divided, we will not stand. It is not about our individual organizations, it is about saving souls for Christ!

7) If you are out there, be sure you are always prepared and ready. Seek regular accountability and (in case you counsel people) also supervision. Make sure you meet your own physical, emotional, relational and spiritual needs! Set up a spiritual structure for your life and follow it no matter what! Know your adversary’s arguments and know how to counter them! Be humble enough to seek other people’s advice and guidance! Inform yourself so you know what you are talking about!

8) Don’t expect the world – or the Church – to be always nice to you. They nailed the Son of God onto the Cross – why would they treat you any differently?

9) There was a time when it was alright for some of us to withdraw into our own save havens – be it support groups, Christian media, churches and the like. This time is over – and the sooner you understand that, the better. We have a mighty enemy, so get into the ring and learn how to fight!

10) Be out there. Be present on all levels and in all areas – media, work, Church, family, politics, legal system, science, whatever. Seek allies. Stay humble. Remember that Christian love is not a fuzzy feeling, but a tough love that tells people what they need to hear, not what they want to hear. This is not about Christian wellness, this is a spiritual war. Get your armor on, gather and fight!

 

Robert

SOCE BILL OF RIGHTS

Posted on July 8, 2014 at 12:05 AM

7-4-2014

 

We observe and declare that any right to life is fundamentally dependent on an equal right to self-determination in order to have any meaning. Free will, reasonably exercised within the boundaries of moral framework and compliant with the clear intent of nature’s design, is the very essence of self-determination and therefore life itself. We therefore resolve to obligate any and all people or organizations whether professional, commercial, secular or religious to honor this fundamental right.

We obligate the medical and legal communities to hold to their professional vows, and legal precedents to honor the rights of those seeking Sexual Orientation Change Efforts (SOCE) as a part of the fundamental right to self-determination. As no person can dictate to another the true content of their heart or mind, there can be no ethical foundation on which to unscrupulously attempt to confound, suppress or interfere with the right of an individual to explore options, make self-determinations or seek change in his or her life.

This same conclusion is held sacred within the medical community sworn oaths and legal findings. To cite only a few:

The Association of American Physicians and Surgeons (AAPS), ‘Model Resolution Concerning The Declaration of Professional Responsibility’ decries any effort by the American Medical Association (AMA) to be used to advance any socio-political agenda. [ to "advocate for social, economic, and political changes…that ameliorate suffering" could be considered a proxy clause whereby the AMA could assume it has the authority to advocate whatever social/political agenda it chooses and claim the full support of the entire profession.”]

The American Psychological Association’s, ‘Ethical Principles of Psychologists And Code of Conduct’ (Effective June 1, 2003, as amended 2010) Principle E: Respect for People’s Rights and Dignity holds psychologists responsible to “respect the dignity and worth of ‘all’ people, and the rights of individuals to privacy, confidentiality and self-determination.”, and to be “aware of and respect cultural, individual and role differences” in order to “try to eliminate the effect on their work of biases based on those factors, and {…} not knowingly participate in or condone activities of others based upon such prejudices.”

The Commission For Reproductive Health, ‘Code of Conduct in Women’s Reproductive Health’, I. Duties to the Patient, cites patient self-rule. “A clinician’s primary aim for the patient must to be informed self-rule (self-determination). And “A clinician must always attempt to understand a patient and insulate a patient from coercive pressure.”

The Clinical Social Workers Association, ‘Clinical Social Work Association Code of Ethics’, states their “core requirements of ethical practice; non-malfeasance, (doing no harm to clients); beneficence, (helping clients), and autonomy (enhancing the self-determination of clients).”

 

In Cruzan v. Director, Mo. Dept. of Health (1990), the US Supreme Court held that a mentally competent person had a right to make a “deeply personal decision,” id.,at 289 (O’Connor, J., concurring) in their medical treatment.

In Planned Parenthood of Southeastern Pa. v. Casey (1992), the US Supreme Court holding notes, “the individual’s right to make certain unusually important decisions that will affect his own, or his family’s, destiny. The Court has referred to such decisions as implicating ‘basic values,’ as being ‘fundamental’, and as being dignified by history and tradition. The character of the Court’s language in these cases brings to mind the origins of the American heritage of freedom – the abiding interest in individual liberty that makes certain state intrusions on the citizen’s right to decide how he will live his own life intolerable.” Fitzgerald v. Porter Memorial Hospital, (1976).

 

We thus hold true and obligate others sworn to uphold the right to self-determination that:

I. Every individual has an ethical, medical and legal right to sexual self-determination.

II. Every individual has an ethical, medical and legal right to explore and research their options in order to make informed decisions.

III. Every individual has a right to be fully informed of the true science regarding human sexual fluidity by relevant agency or practitioner.

IV. Every individual has a right to be informed of the known medical and psychological risks associated with their choice by relevant agency or practitioner.

V. Any professional sworn by oath to make no attempt to coerce, suppress or confound the individual cultural, ethical or religious convictions of any client be held to honor their oath.

VI. Any professional or agency attempting to coerce, suppress or confound the individual right to sexual self-determination be held in violation of their oath, in contempt of legal precedence and hostile to the welfare of their client.

 

We, whose lives these decisions affect, and our supporters demand our right to liberty and a life of our choosing that is in accordance with creation as intended, good health and a virtuous spirit.

 

SIGNED:

 

Homosexuals Anonymous

Jason - International Christian Ex-Gay Ministry

Should Ex-Gay Ministries Get Involved In Politics?

Posted on May 4, 2014 at 8:55 AM

That question raised quite some concern among ex-gays even not so long ago. Some groups (like Homosexuals Anonymous) have completely abstained from taking an active part in politics, others have been out there from the beginning.

 

So where are we now? Does it even matter?

 

It does – very much so.

 

I don’t know if there ever was a time where it might have been understandable to focus only on being a “safe haven” for those seeking help in dealing with unwanted same-sex attraction. If there was, this time is over now. We simply cannot afford staying silent anymore and concentration on therapy, counseling or pastoral care.

 

I was born and raised in Germany. We got some idea of how wrong and dramatic it can get if you think you are living on an island – separated from the rest of the world – and this world with all that it brings along will leave you in peace then.

 

“No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend's or of thine own were. Any man's death diminishes me because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.” John Donne

 

We are never separated from the world – and as Christians we must not even think of being so.

 

“First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out-- Because I was not a Socialist.

Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out-- Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out-- Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me--and there was no one left to speak for me.”

Pastor Martin Niemöller criticizing German intellectuals for being coward during the Nazi area

 

Ex-gays cannot and must not stay silent – and neither must the Church.

 

Matthew 28:16-20 King James Version (KJV):

“16 Then the eleven disciples went away into Galilee, into a mountain where Jesus had appointed them.

17 And when they saw him, they worshipped him: but some doubted.

18 And Jesus came and spake unto them, saying, All power is given unto me in heaven and in earth.

19 Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost:

20 Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. Amen.“

 

That includes standing up for what we believe in – whatever the cost may be. If we as Christians don’t have something to shout from the roofs, then I don’t know who has.

I am not talking about founding or supporting a political party, mind you. However, I am talking of being the voice for Jesus, of putting on the armor of faith and stand firm like a rock, of being the light put out there for everyone to shine. These things won’t happen if we hide in supposedly “safe havens”. The world out there needs to hear our voice! We are responsible for one another and we are called to run after each and every sheep that is in danger of getting lost.

 

When I heard of something like ex-gay ministries for the first time (after I had spent many years embracing a gay life which led me to hitting rock bottom at the end), I was really steaming mad when I started reading all those homepages. Why had nobody ever told me about that? Why did they not stand up for what they believe in so those in need can hear their voice and message? How come we have to go and find out on our own by stumbling over it “by chance”? How come gay activists force their beliefs on the whole world and ex-gays are hiding in secret circles? How come we have no problem cheering on the top of our lungs for soccer or football teams but stay awfully silent when it comes to proclaiming our faith – the faith in Jesus, the Son of God, who gave everything – including His own life – to pull us out of the mud and save our butts – sorry, lives?

 

If you think you can stay silent and separate from the world, don’t be surprised if it comes breaking into your doors. If you claim to be responsible for those seeking help in dealing with unwanted same-sex attractions, how come you shut up when they pass laws preventing us from doing so? Is it really the love and care for people with unwanted ssa you are worried about – or more your own safety and comfort?

 

And if you happened to find help in ex-gay ministries, shouldn’t you get your own butt up now and help others – just like every Christian should pass on the love He receives from Christ and his brothers and sisters each day?

 

I am sick to death with being silent. Now it is time for war. This is a battle cry for everyone to take on his or her spiritual armor and stand firm for the Son of God that became man so men and women can become children of God! How dare we settle with less?

 

Revelation 3:16 New International Version (NIV):

“16 So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.”

 

Robert