|Posted on September 17, 2016 at 2:00 PM|
Why do so many people with same-sex attractions stumble on the way to freedom? Here some reasons:
- So far, they used the easy fix to deal with their hurts and their legitimate unfulfilled needs. Now they are supposed to do something, which is way harder, even though it leads to a better goal, heals their hurts and really satisfies their needs. The quick fix is just too tempting at times...
- No stress- and frustration-tolerance.
- Lack of ability to set yourself a goal and pursue it - no matter what.
- Everyone around them keeps on telling them to do whatever they feel like doing. It's all about "love", right?
- Lack of a love that is bigger than the lust.
|Posted on January 18, 2015 at 9:45 AM|
I guess we’ve all been there. When we faced sexual temptation and fell, we were not the ones to blame of course. “It came over us”, “it was stronger than me”, “I tried but I could not resist”. We are talking about that like kiddies that were unable to resist something big and dangerous over our heads, when we were just too weak in our faith and our will to stand up to temptation. It even gets worse when we blame some program designed to help us. Or some counselor, pastor or brother or sister in Christ for our own inability. On a spiritual basis, Jesus died for us on the Cross so temptation has no power over us anymore. On a more personal and practical basis, it is what it is: We were just too chicken to confront temptation. Giving in was so much easier.
When it happened, let’s face it like real men/women though. No need to play the blame game. At best we can find out under what circumstances we are most prone to fall so we might discern a pattern behind it and prevent future falls. Spiritually, we confess, repent – and move on with our lives. No beating ourselves up, no whining that “we will never make it”. Most especially though no giving up and creating a new theology and worldview that allows us to be weak and even celebrates that.
That is simply pathetic – and we know it.
Nothing “came over us” but ourselves – our biggest enemy.