What is so special about us?
What is so special about Homosexuals Anonymous (www.homosexuals-anonymous.com) and the Jason ministry (https://jason-online.webs.com) ? What is characteristic for our ministries? In short: We are truly family. In our groups – both local and online – and between the leaders you will find a very warmhearted atmosphere. That does not mean it is not going rough at times, but the brotherly love always takes us through.
In our group meetings we do not simply share own experiences. We follow the concept of Proverbs 27:17: “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” (Revised Standard Version Catholic Edition (RSVCE)). Especially men need to cheer one another, but also encourage, advise, and support one another. A woman is born a woman – a man has to become a man, and he does so through a lively interaction with other men. That means we want our members to comment on what their brothers (and sisters) did or said – and not just swallow it down as if this is none of their business and as if advise is something bad.
Many of our members stay for a long period of time – others leave early. Recovery does not have a set schedule as the causes for same-sex attractions are many and each member deals with different ones. Our members are free to come back anytime once they leave if they wish to. If a member falls, we do not throw him or her out, we try to help him or her get back on track again by finding out why this happened and how future falls can be prevented.
Decisions among the leaders are being taken in brotherly accord.
Our leaders usually are mature men of faith: Pastors, therapists, Christian counselors and the like.
We see our 14 steps as a tool – one tool among many others. They are NOT the end; they are a means to the end of seeking freedom from same-sex attractions and living a godly life. We are not concentrating on the 14 steps per se in a legalistic manner as if the salvation of the earth depended on them. That is why we include all sorts of tools and resources in our program and are also able to shape it for special groups of people (like Muslims). Many factors contributed to the development of our same-sex attractions and to believe that one single program is good enough for everybody to deal with those factors, that one size fits all, would be a sign of arrogance & pride and thus not helpful for our members. We do not exist for our own sake or to glorify our own name, but the name of Jesus. We also work together with many other groups, organizations & churches – both secular and religious. We offer our help and support to Jews, Muslims, people of other faiths – and no faiths – without compromising our Christian heritage.
We do not ask anything from our members but the will to be free. They do not have to be Christians. However, they should be aware that this is a Christ-centered program and at least be open to work with those parts of the program they feel comfortable with.
There are only a few rules for those participating in our groups: No doctrinal discussions, no insulting of other members, no overly graphic and/or dirty language, no inappropriate behavior among the members.
Our members are encouraged to contribute and share stuff they consider helpful. This stuff does not necessarily have to be related directly to same-sex attractions or the 14 steps. As I already mentioned many biological, social, psychological, emotional & spiritual factors contributed to the development of our same-sex attractions, which in turn means that recovery has to deal with a wider context that includes all those areas as well. Some share songs, others talk or organize leisure activities etc.
We are non-denominational. That means, we do not have to focus on doctrinal questions, on fitting into church policies, on looking good enough from the outside to be “presentable” as part of a church, on not being allowed to use or talk about certain things that would not be in line with our denomination, on getting approval from elders or pastors and so on. All of that would lead us astray from our goal of seeking freedom of same-sex attractions.
Finally: All of our services are for free. That does not mean that what we are doing does not cost us anything. This is why we need to ask for donations. However, nobody that seeks help will have to pay anything for it.
We are here to love and serve people with unwanted same-sex attractions and their loved ones as well as anybody interested in that subject like Christ would. He is our head and our foundation – and Him we follow.
"And what of them; those fragile few who sit lonely in a life of societal isolation? They have journeyed an incomprehensible adventure of human transformation striving to re-join the human race, to feel the warm grace of a loving God and finally achieve acceptance of themselves, through this journey, which only they can comprehend. And yet to find once again they are ostracized and condemned, this time for their successes. The pains, the struggles and the scars that drove them deeply into the dark pit of confusion, self-doubt, self-loathing and communal banishment are again relived as they are victimized by the ghosts of their past. Mocked, disbelieved, scorned by the envy of tortured souls who relish at the notion of their fall back to the hell from which only they escaped. What great strength did it take to achieve? How many broken souls are able to actually rise up and transform themselves into the very weapon which slays their own demons? What great strength does it take to suffer the barbs of the envious and the devious who work tirelessly to undermine their hard earned peace? Nobly, they suffer once again. Generously, they try to embrace the broken-hearted and struggle to carry them to salvation. If God makes angels of men, then would these not be among them? These, who crawl across the political and emotional battlefield time and time again to retrieve the wounded and bring them to safety. These, who live in isolation from both those who have not succeeded in the journey and they who never needed the venture; thus neither truly understanding. Let them know that each bears a burden not all the same. Let them know that all struggle with demons of different names and devices. And let them know that none of us receive a parade in honor of our victories over ourselves. But each must find that reward within himself, in the peaceful contentment that he has become that which he dreamt he could be."
“To be pure, to remain pure, can only come at a price, the price of knowing God and loving him enough to do his will. He will always give us the strength we need to keep purity as something beautiful for God. Purity is the fruit of prayer.”
Blessed Mother Teresa