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You Need Passion!

Posted on April 20, 2015 at 2:05 PM

Why is the only condition we have on someone who wants to join Homosexuals Anonymous the will to be free? Because without it everything else would be futile. You have to know what you want and you have to really want it. You need a passion to go for your goal, no matter what. If there are no emotions involved and you try to reach a goal simply through a change of cognitive thinking patterns, or because someone else wants you to and you have not the slightest wish to do so, this only become negative stress for you. It is all about how you see and evaluate this goal of being free of same-sex attractions and the way that leads to that. For some it is a drag, a pain in the butt. For others the same tools are an exciting challenge.

Think about it.

Rob

Reparative Therapy of Same-Sex Attractions - Why the Bashing?

Posted on April 8, 2015 at 3:30 PM

It seems to be common to bash reparative therapy of same-sex attractions. Even ex-gay leaders seem to go on a distance - while carefully choosing their words in order not to look like they want to put those down who do it. Yet they do get away from it and somehow I tend to think that they are still under shock of what had happened with and to Exodus and now reject anything and everything Exodus did in order not to be seen in the same light as them. Thus they do not use any of RT's methods and try to stay on the safe side by only using spiritual means.

So how about it - yes or no?

Let's first talk about what it is. Something needs to be "repaired" because it is "broken" or because there is some sort of loss or lack. That can be the lack of love from the same-sex parent in childhood for example. Therapy would now try to fill that lack and meet the legitimate need for same-sex affirmation and love through healthy male bondings. Instead of simply calling same-sex acts sinful, RT tries to work on their causes and help the individuals use their current resources to meet their present needs. Other issues might be the affirmation of exisiting heterosexual tendencies in the individual and working on gender identity issues (like what being a real man is all about - something most men struggle with I'd say).

Both Homosexuals Anonymous and Jason International approves of the underlying ideas and the methods of reparative therapy. That does not mean every therapist who applies them is a good one or that those ideas and/or methods should not be evaluated or improved. Of course they should.

However, we do NOT believe that the mixture of psychology and pastoral care is dangerous per se.

The human being as we see him/her in the Bible is an entity of body, psyche and soul. Each counselor, pastor, priest, or therapist should have at least some basic knowledge of those three. And it exactly that order the counselee needs to be checked - no matter if you do psychotherapy, pastoral care or whatever else. Is there a physical problem (make sure the counselee has a medical check-up!)? Are there emotional, psychological or mental problems or disorders (know some about their causes and symptoms and make sure the counselee gets proper help by a psychotherapist or psychiatrist)? In that context you need to see the indivdual's personal history and family background too. For some personality disorders it takes the unpacking of the past - like through psychoanalysis. Are there spiritual problems? If so which and how can they be addressed?

Those three parts - body, psyche and soul - can never seen separately. They always form one unit. However, you need to find out where the problem lies. If someone has a broken tooth you can pray till you're blue in the face, it would not help. God stressed that point: Adam had the perfect relationship with Him in the beginning, yet God said it was not good for him to be alone and made him a helper.

Even if you only focus on one part (like the spiritual one) you absolutly need to have a basic knowledge of the rest, else you are of little help and end up nowhere fast. You cannot base your programs only on one of those three parts and think this is a valid approach. It would be a very narrow and most likely very unhealthy one, as it could add shame and guilt to the already existing problems (if the counselee still makes no progress and feels like a total failure because you did not see his real problem and he thinks it is his fault).

Both Homosexuals Anonymous and Jason International do not offer psychotherapy. We have support groups and offer free Christian counseling and pastoral care. However, you will find the above ideas approached in our program with information to further help. Our basic concept is to not only look on where the issues are and how to address them best, but also to focus on what resources the individual has now, how he or she can use them best and how to make him or her strong - in all three parts ("resilience"). We are result-oriented, that is also the only condition we have for those who want to take part in our programs is the will to be free. If someone does not have that and only wants to whine and pity himself because he then does not need to take over responsibility and become active, but can stay the focus of attention and get pitied - then he or she better stays at home or leaves our group.

Let's stick with what works and not run for the hills because some fell or gay activists try to force a discussion upon us that is not ours. Don't get chicken and back off. We have a mighty enemy - so we better learn how to get our fists up and fight!

Munich, April 8th 2015

Robert Gollwitzer

Homosexuals Anonymous Responds to District of Columbia Therapy Ban

Posted on December 4, 2014 at 3:25 PM

In a stupefying and overtly gross political maneuver, the city council of Washington D.C. voted unanimously to deny patient’s rights by passing a bill making therapy for unwanted same-sex attraction for minors illegal. The bill was sought by the controversial leftist Human Rights Campaign (HRC) even as it has been stung by yet another high profile homosexual pedophilia case among its membership, this time at its highest echelon. With childhood sexual abuse being highly correlative to the development of homosexual attractions, the decision by this heavily Democrat council could not be in worst taste or more tragic.

 

Personal testimonies and pleas from formerly same-sex attracted individuals and counselors were brazenly ignored in favor of the Democratic Party aligned HRC, SPLC and PFLAG. Questions still linger regarding the SPLC’s incitement of terrorism against ex-gays after a supporter attempted to attack the conservative Family Research Council facilities, shooting a security guard. The HRC itself has been unrepentant about its goal of normalizing homosexual behavior even at the expense of victimized children raped into the gay lifestyle. This decision runs in direct conflict with the American Psychological Association’s oath to patient right to self-determination and basic human rights. As this decision is being made, already discredited homosexual activists are appearing at the United Nations in an attempt to goad the U.N. into also denying anyone the right to seek therapeutic assistance in changing their sexual attractions in a politically motivated maneuver to shut down discourse on ending same-sex attractions.

 

The pro-gay activists sponsoring the District of Columbia bill repeatedly pushed the idea that SOCE (Sexual Orientation Change Efforts) were harmful even though the American Psychological Association admits there is no such evidence beyond allegorical claims and the testimony of Rikin S. Mehta, senior deputy director of the D.C. Department of Health, admitted there was no record of complaints against SOCE therapists. Mehta, a former pharmacist and FDA drug policy advisor with a Juris Doctorate, was testifying in support of the bill anyway calling SOCE therapy “harmful, dangerous and counterproductive” in opposition to the licensed therapists fighting the ban, such as Voice of the Voiceless President and formerly same-sex attracted Christopher Doyle who testified against implementing the ban with eleven others.

 

This council decision is as damaging to the truth as it is to the minors now denied desired therapy or counseling by government decree. Only California and New Jersey have accepted similar restrictions as attempts in other states have failed. The irony could not be greater that such a bill was passed in the District of Columbia where sexually reoriented former homosexuals are a protected class. Homosexuals Anonymous looks forward to seeing this atrocious denial of the human right to self-determination overturned in the future.

But I am not as [strong/assertive/skilful] as other men!

Posted on July 8, 2014 at 10:45 AM

Men with unwanted same-sex attractions often tend to compare themselves with other men. Mostly they see themselves as “not man enough”, i.e. as not at the same level as them. They would say things like, “I don’t want to take part in our men’s group at church. I am rather clumsy and not as skillful as the other men when it comes to repair things.” or, “I am not as self-confident as other men.”

In many cases, this way of comparing themselves to other men as if that was an alien world they do not belong to reaches back to early childhood. The boys naturally tried to bond with their father, but for whatever reason this did not work out – be it because dad was emotionally not accessible or not there altogether. Maybe mom also spoke bad about dad in company of the boy. The boy would have tried for a while to bond with his dad after all, but finally he gave up – on bonding with dad and with this on finding his way into the male world altogether. Masculinity stayed a big myth for them and they somehow felt stuck between the sexes.

 

As puberty and with it its sexual feelings kicked in, they were attracted by what they perceived as being different from them – in this case men.

 

Now, on their way out and (back) to masculinity as it was planned to, they feel anxious and shy – in short uncomfortable – in company with other men. They realize that the contact with other men is crucial for every man if he wants to find his way into manhood, yet they still have that feeling of “being different” and “not being man enough”.

 

How to deal with that?

 

There is only one way: Face your fears. Yes, the other men might realize you are somewhat clumsy and afraid. However, if you fight your fears and clumsiness and go for it just the same, this will always be seen as a sign of manliness. If you run for the hills, you will feed the fears and make the gap between you and the male world even bigger. This will never be seen as a sign of manliness by any man. So fight! A man that fights always counts as a true man!

Nobody said it would be easy becoming a real man – but it is so much worth it!

 

Rob

SOCE BILL OF RIGHTS

Posted on July 8, 2014 at 12:05 AM

7-4-2014

 

We observe and declare that any right to life is fundamentally dependent on an equal right to self-determination in order to have any meaning. Free will, reasonably exercised within the boundaries of moral framework and compliant with the clear intent of nature’s design, is the very essence of self-determination and therefore life itself. We therefore resolve to obligate any and all people or organizations whether professional, commercial, secular or religious to honor this fundamental right.

We obligate the medical and legal communities to hold to their professional vows, and legal precedents to honor the rights of those seeking Sexual Orientation Change Efforts (SOCE) as a part of the fundamental right to self-determination. As no person can dictate to another the true content of their heart or mind, there can be no ethical foundation on which to unscrupulously attempt to confound, suppress or interfere with the right of an individual to explore options, make self-determinations or seek change in his or her life.

This same conclusion is held sacred within the medical community sworn oaths and legal findings. To cite only a few:

The Association of American Physicians and Surgeons (AAPS), ‘Model Resolution Concerning The Declaration of Professional Responsibility’ decries any effort by the American Medical Association (AMA) to be used to advance any socio-political agenda. [ to "advocate for social, economic, and political changes…that ameliorate suffering" could be considered a proxy clause whereby the AMA could assume it has the authority to advocate whatever social/political agenda it chooses and claim the full support of the entire profession.”]

The American Psychological Association’s, ‘Ethical Principles of Psychologists And Code of Conduct’ (Effective June 1, 2003, as amended 2010) Principle E: Respect for People’s Rights and Dignity holds psychologists responsible to “respect the dignity and worth of ‘all’ people, and the rights of individuals to privacy, confidentiality and self-determination.”, and to be “aware of and respect cultural, individual and role differences” in order to “try to eliminate the effect on their work of biases based on those factors, and {…} not knowingly participate in or condone activities of others based upon such prejudices.”

The Commission For Reproductive Health, ‘Code of Conduct in Women’s Reproductive Health’, I. Duties to the Patient, cites patient self-rule. “A clinician’s primary aim for the patient must to be informed self-rule (self-determination). And “A clinician must always attempt to understand a patient and insulate a patient from coercive pressure.”

The Clinical Social Workers Association, ‘Clinical Social Work Association Code of Ethics’, states their “core requirements of ethical practice; non-malfeasance, (doing no harm to clients); beneficence, (helping clients), and autonomy (enhancing the self-determination of clients).”

 

In Cruzan v. Director, Mo. Dept. of Health (1990), the US Supreme Court held that a mentally competent person had a right to make a “deeply personal decision,” id.,at 289 (O’Connor, J., concurring) in their medical treatment.

In Planned Parenthood of Southeastern Pa. v. Casey (1992), the US Supreme Court holding notes, “the individual’s right to make certain unusually important decisions that will affect his own, or his family’s, destiny. The Court has referred to such decisions as implicating ‘basic values,’ as being ‘fundamental’, and as being dignified by history and tradition. The character of the Court’s language in these cases brings to mind the origins of the American heritage of freedom – the abiding interest in individual liberty that makes certain state intrusions on the citizen’s right to decide how he will live his own life intolerable.” Fitzgerald v. Porter Memorial Hospital, (1976).

 

We thus hold true and obligate others sworn to uphold the right to self-determination that:

I. Every individual has an ethical, medical and legal right to sexual self-determination.

II. Every individual has an ethical, medical and legal right to explore and research their options in order to make informed decisions.

III. Every individual has a right to be fully informed of the true science regarding human sexual fluidity by relevant agency or practitioner.

IV. Every individual has a right to be informed of the known medical and psychological risks associated with their choice by relevant agency or practitioner.

V. Any professional sworn by oath to make no attempt to coerce, suppress or confound the individual cultural, ethical or religious convictions of any client be held to honor their oath.

VI. Any professional or agency attempting to coerce, suppress or confound the individual right to sexual self-determination be held in violation of their oath, in contempt of legal precedence and hostile to the welfare of their client.

 

We, whose lives these decisions affect, and our supporters demand our right to liberty and a life of our choosing that is in accordance with creation as intended, good health and a virtuous spirit.

 

SIGNED:

 

Homosexuals Anonymous

Jason - International Christian Ex-Gay Ministry