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Questions for a Counselor

Posted on January 5, 2016 at 3:45 PM


JONAH'S Suggested Questions for a Prospective Therapist or Counselor

Author / Contributor :: JONAH's Directors

JONAH is frequently asked for referrals to therapists or counselors who are experienced in working with those who are unhappy feeling same-sex attraction. We provide referrals if we are familiar with a therapist who lives in the required geographical area and at times we recommend telephone therapy. However, there are times when we do not have a particular therapist to recommend and/or one of our members wants to interview a new therapist.

In order to be sure the prospective therapist or counselor you are interviewing understands fully the concepts involved in reparative or change therapy, we have compiled a list of questions you can ask to determine if this is the right person for you to work with.

If you find a therapist who is effective in treating unwanted same-sex attraction, please contact us with the name so we can speak with him/her and perhaps add this person to our referral list.

Here are basic questions you can ask of any therapist:

These five questions are taken directly from Anne Paulk's 2003 book:

Restoring Sexual Identity: Hope for Women Who Struggle with Same-Sex Attraction (page 115).


Do you believe that men and women are "born gay?"

Do you believe that wanting to leave homosexuality is harmful or dangerous?

Do you believe that change is even possible?

Can you support me in my desire to change?

Have you read relevant research concerning the topics of gender identity disorder,

homosexuality, and family structure?


The following six questions or requests are taken directly from Richard Cohen's 2000 book:

Coming Out Straight: Understanding and Healing Homosexuality (page 115).


Please tell me about your education and training in this area of sexual reorientation therapy.

What therapeutic modalities do you use? Please explain them in simple layman's terms.

Have you worked with others who have transitioned out of homosexuality?

What is your success rate in doing this kind of work?

Do you believe in God? (If important: What is your religious faith?)

Have you done your own healing work?

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