In order for the local H.A. chapter to maintain a healthy atmosphere which will allow for the mature growth of its individual members, the leadership should strive to maintain certain qualities in themselves. These qualities are:
Finding fellowship with God a pleasure.
Striving for ever-increasing purity of life.
Sensing people’s needs and being patient with their slowness of growth.
Being honest enough to confront and challenge without desiring to control.
Not needing to control others because of a fear that their failure will be construed of the leader’s failure—“If the group falls apart, it’s my fault.” The leader should not become nervously controlling when situations arise that may seem threatening. The leader does not make statements like, “We cannot allow this to happen” or “You’d better decide whether you really want to be in this group”. Rather he lays the situation before the group and says, “How do you think we should handle this?” or “Could we discuss the possible approach that we, as a group, want to take in this situation?”.
Being able to consider the other person’s best interest.
Being open enough to let others know that the leader is imperfect and still growing. This ability to be vulnerable comes from the understanding that we are righteous only in the righteousness of Christ. In ourselves we are imperfect and incomplete.
(Taken from the "HOMOSEXUALS ANONYMOUS POLICY AND ADVISORY MANUAL")